I'm a single mom who also works (although I'm convinced that more of the work is at home.) I strive to do my best at both raising my two boys and working, but some days I just want to lock myself in the bathroom for a personal time-out. Is it just me?
I know of some extraordinary moms who manage being a working mom and make it, well...work. Supermom? It seems so. I've asked them to share their secret and what works for them.
Introducing the beautiful Lindsey Lassak, who is also a single mom.
Besides being a Mom, what's your job description?
I am a lady of many different hats. I currently work part-time for the City of Santa Clarita in the Child Development Department teaching preschool, I work part-time at the College of the Canyons in the Financial Aid Department processing federal loans, I have my own business assisting expectant families as a Doula and I am attending classes to become a Medical Assistant with the ultimate goal of becoming a Midwife.
What have you discovered/learned in your line of work can you apply to your family life that helps you be a better Mom?
PATIENCE!!!! Believe it or not, I am soooo not a patient person. Working with children (small or big) and women who are in labor has helped me slow down a little and not sweat the small stuff as much. My son is 9 and is constant….I know all you Mommies know what I mean by constant. It’s game time all the time and patience is truly a virtue.
Most memorable Mom moment:
Of course I would say the day that (her son) J.P. was born. I had an easy pregnancy and a long labor but a beautiful birth of an easy going, loving child. I’ll give you a funny story though…one I will never forget;
I just had gotten out of the shower, standing in the bathroom with my bra and underwear on. J.P. (around 3 years old) was in the bathroom as I was getting ready. I was blow drying my hair and he was laughing hysterically at me. When I was finished he said, “Mama, your butt looks like the hippo’s butt from Madagascar!” Oh kids…they say the darnest things, don’t they?
Best tip(s)/advice to a Mom who is struggling to balance family life and work:
Life is hard. You have to go through the ropes with no expectations. Set your goals high and reach higher. Working three jobs and going to school full time leaves little time with my child but you have to make time. You set date nights with your children and your significant other, even if you have to plan it days in advance. Eat at least one meal with your family each day, read a book together, do a project, go to the park, go for a walk, play a game, write love notes and stash them in places they go to everyday. Do this all without the use of electronics…pay attention to them for a little while. Have a conversation without texting. Pick up the phone and call them when you’re working just to say hello. It really is the little things that matter most and all of these things are doable and don’t take a lot of time. Sometimes I wish there were just one extra hour in the day to get it all done (like that last load of laundry) but if you don’t, it’ll still be there tomorrow.
Thanks you for your advice, my beautiful friend! If you would like to ask Lindsey any questions, or just want to say, "Hi!" you can email her at: firstname.lastname@example.org or visit her facebook page.